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SIGNS from our loved ones who have died are everywhere. When a loved one dies many of us have been taught and believe they are gone forever and in many ways, unfortunately, this is true. When the physical body dies we can no longer do things like text or call them, we cannot hug them and we cannot hold their hand. What we can do is begin to develop a new and continued relationship with our loved ones on the other side. This is because LOVE never dies.
As we travel through our grief journey navigating our way to a new normal our loved ones travel with us. There are many different beliefs as to what happens when we die. I understand if what you believe makes what I am suggesting hard to accept. I simply ask for you to consider the possibility that our loved ones soul can and do stay with us. This does not mean something is wrong, or they have unfinished business here and are staying to "haunt" us as movies often suggest. It simply means they LOVE us and LOVE never dies. On the other hand some people want and even ask for signs but say they do not receive them.
This causes more concerns. Is my loved one ok? Didn't they love me? R they mad at me? The answers to these questions are Yes, of course they did and no. There are many schools of thought regarding how, when and where our loved ones can communicate with us from the other side. After a loved one passes many turn to their family and friends, religion, support groups, grief professionals mediums and many other sources of support. All of these sources are incredibly important to our healing process but the one person we do not necessarily turn to is our loved who has died. Talking ( out loud or silently ) to our loved one is not crazy. It can be very comforting not only for you but for them. If talking makes you feel uncomfortable you can write to them. Creating a grief journal is very healing and a wonderful way to process our thoughts and feelings. Our loved ones are all around us, not in a scary way, remember, this is all about our connection though LOVE. They are watching and listening but we are the only ones who can communicate the way we always have. They must now find new ways to reach us. Ways that we will recognize and understand. Try learning "sign language" overnight, it's not easy. Patience and love are key.
Signs can come in many forms. Forms such as numbers, animals, nature, songs, electricity just to name a few. As we are grieving our minds and hearts are full and heavy. The best way we can receive signs from our loved ones is to pay attention with an open heart and an open mind. It is important to make time for silence.. You can create moments of silence by meditating, enjoying time in nature or even just driving your car without the distraction of the radio or a podcast playing. It is in the quiet moments that we allow the space for our loved ones to communicate. As time passes communicating with our loved ones becomes much easier and more organic. These moments of quiet are not only wonderful for receiving our signs but are also an integral part of our healing process.
If you are wondering how will you know if something is a sign, trust me, you will just know. If you think it is a sign then it is a sign. If you are not someone who likes leaving things to chance then be specific. Ask for a sign. For example, Please show me a ladybug in my car in the next week. If you happen to live where there are a ton of ladybugs then ask for something different. Equally, don't ask for a rainbow in the middle of a sun shower.
My mom communicates with me through the number 41 and my brother communicates with me through my birthdate. As I write this , it is 6:41 p.m. See?!
My mom started communicating with me a week after she died and my brother started 20 years after he died. The actuality of that statement is that he was communicating we me way before I began to notice or was even aware that this was all possible. I am so grateful he did not get tired of waiting for me to figure it out. You might ask why he was so patient, the answer, because LOVE never dies!
I share all of this with you for a reason. The 20 years I spent after my brother died not understanding I could still have a relationship with him was very hard, very empty and very lonely. Yes, I had a full wonderful life with a family, friends and a career but where my brother was concerned it was a very solo road. Once I began to learn and understand about signs and communication from the other side my thoughts and feelings about my brother and death began to change. This took many years but today I am grateful for all that he has taught me from the other side and for all the love, and support I receive from him. I share my story with the hope that it may spark others to have the same awareness and knowledge. Feeling our loved ones from the other side certainly does not replace actually having them here with us but it does assist our process and is very comforting to know they are still a part of our story here on earth.
While my mother was still alive, she witnessed this transformation over time. She and I made an afterlife communication plan. All this means is we decided what her sign to me would be. With our plan in place, after my Mom passed, she was sending signs within a week. It has been seven years and she is with me every day all day. Before she died we spoke about the freedom she would have to hang out with me anytime. No need to make a plan or wait for time in our schedules. I told her when she crossed over she could hang out with me all day every day if she wanted too. As mothers will do with their children... she took me seriously.
I hope this article has inspired you to consider the possibilities and to travel though life with your eyes and your heart just a little more open.
As with all parts of our grief journeys, opening communication with our loved ones is a process... take it one step at a time.